Who in the world doesn’t like a peaceful life or at least, a peaceful mind? I bet everyone longs for it, dreaming to have it. Here’s the good news, you don’t need to go miles away or spend millions just to have peace of mind – at the very least. All you got to do is try out the Tara Brach meditation.
What is Meditation?
According to Yogapedia.com, meditations is “the process of quieting the mind in order to spend time in thought for relaxation or religious/spiritual purposes.” The objective is to achieve an inner state of awareness and deepen the person’s personal and spiritual development. It involves focussing on something like an image, feeling or the most commonly used item, sound.
Who is Tara Brach?
Tara Brach is the person behind Tara Brach meditation. She is a clinical psychologist. She is known worldwide as a teacher of mindfulness meditation, and the person who wrote the bestselling book entitled, “Radical Acceptance and True Refuge”. She conducts podcasts on the role of mindfulness in putting human potential to live. Her podcasts reach a million downloads every month.
Apart from teaching, Brach is actively bringing her namesake, Tara Brach Meditation to the Washington, DC.
What Tara Brach meditation is like?
Being a teacher and coach, Brach came up with a series of mindfulness meditation to help those people who want to have peace of mind, at the same time to stay focused in life. Tara Brach meditation podcasts are downloadable online to serve those who want to get rid of negativities through this means.
Depending on your needs, Tara Brach meditation offers a variety of options to choose from. At the end of every session, the goal is to achieve a certain degree of relaxation and stillness.
Tara Brach Meditation: Relaxing with Life
According to TaraBrach.com, this type of meditation “includes a mindful body scan and guidance in relaxing with the changing waves of experience. When we say “Yes” to the moment, we open to the sea of awareness that can include, with care, whatever arises.”
I must agree on this as my perspective in life has changed a lot after I started doing this.
Let me share to you something, a few months ago, I looked at our new neighbor and thought – Wow! She has awesome, well-behaved kids that are involved in every extra-curricular activity, adoring husband, high-earning job, a healthy lean body, she’s even got perfect hair (while my hair more frequently looks like I was just swept up in a windstorm. In the desert). It was like she got it all! Yes, you are right. I got a little envious – not of her, but of what she has.
Thanks to Tara Brach meditation podcasts, those thoughts didn’t last. I made myself aware that we are all unique. We live different lives. But I must admit, before reaching that point, I saw myself fantasying. Thinking what if I also got what she has. But eventually, I’ve ditched this obsessive fantasy. And it feels oh-so-good. Being sucked into the idea of having it all will put you on a head-first spin- cycle heading straight for exhaustion and disappointment – I thought.
But, come to think of it isn’t that spin-cycle healthy? Doesn’t it push you to reach for more?
Have you ever gotten on the treadmill, pumped up the speed and incline to the highest, most difficult level, attempted to do sideways squats and read a book and listen to your favorite podcast (a good thing if you are listening to Tara Brach meditation, but certainly, you are not)? What do you think would likely happen? Well, one, you’d look ridiculous. Two, you’d probably fall off (deservedly so). This is what happens when you try to have it all. See, when people thinking of having it all, they often think that means they need to do it all. And that leads to falling off the treadmill because you just can’t keep up.
What am I pointing out here? Well, basically the thought of aspiring to have what others have instead of looking at what you have and be content. This is exactly what I learned when I started Tara Brach Meditation on Relaxing with Life.
I suddenly felt a certain peace by accepting and being content with what the universe has blessed me with. By doing so, I achieved a certain degree of calm and peace.
Yearning to have it all is catchy. Catchy like the plague. And just like the plague, it will leave you toothless and hairless and lifeless Well, perhaps not toothless and hairless, but it will wear you out and is definitely not healthy. And it sneaks up on you in a way that seems harmless. You’ll think you’re just goal setting or being a high-achiever. But there’s a difference in setting healthy, attainable goals based on your true desires, and trying to match up with an ideal fantasy life – in this case, fantasizing to have the life of others.
Based on what I acquired from listening to Tara Brach meditation podcasts, I got to have these steps in getting rid of this kind of thoughts to live a healthy, peaceful, life.
Know the Fantasy
You can know that you’re prescribing to this fantasy if you feel you’re adding more things to your life that are either subtracting from your quality of life or misaligned with your core values.
What’s most important to you? Do you know what matters most? If you find yourself getting four hours of sleep so you can wake up early to do cross-fit or yoga or do a Tara Brach meditation perhaps, really, anything else for your health, you may want to reconsider. Are you feeling healthy, or exhausted? Are you stretched too thin? It’s senseless to keep piling on more things to do to fit the demands of the life you wish you had if you are gasping for air just to manage as is. Most of us don’t need to do or have more. We just need to do things differently. The idea of having it all is a deceptive dream.
Well, I actually learned to believe that there is no such thing as you have it all or like someone having it all – because nobody is perfect, for once.
Well, maybe we thought that there is such because there are a few people who appear to have it all, but actually, don’t. They are simply reflecting what the mainstream has described as what “all” is. And therein lies the problem with this insidious fantasy. Only you can determine what you want, and it takes some serious-soul searching to do that.
For example, I’ve recently met a couple who’ve sold all their stuff, built a tiny house, created a life off-the-grid, and started homeschooling their child. That’s the exact opposite of my new neighbor; and the exact opposite of mainstream have-it-all-ness. But which one is right? Which one is best? It really doesn’t matter. You have to know what you want your life to look like, even if it’s the opposite of most others desire. But before you even attempt to figure out which life would be best for you, you’ve got to first ditch this fantasy. Which goes to my next point.
Demolish the Idea
Think for a moment about a celebrity you or everybody idolizes. For some reason, we tend to hold these individuals up in such high esteem. But their lives are racked with issues just like the rest of us. They serve as an exaggerated example of the truth of life. There is no idyllic life where every moment and relationship and the experience feels like being paid to eat delicious, calorie-free donuts in bed. It doesn’t exist. (That life and the calorie-free donuts, that is.)
That’s not a bad thing that it’s imaginary. When you ditch that unhealthy desire from your life, you will feel better about the life you have right now. It’s great to strive and have goals and desires, but have you taken time to be glad for what you already have?
See, I really learned a lot from this meditation thing. It relaxes my mind, at the same time, relaxes how I see life! Thanks to Tara (as if we’re close)!
Don’t Get Envious, Instead Be Glad
Wait, what? I can hear you now. But I hate so many things about my life. That may be what you think – on the surface. I hate to break it to you, but you’ve got to appreciate exactly where you are, and exactly what you have in your life right now, not in the future — now.
A popular conversation piece is being grateful. People talk about gratitude journals and writing and meditation. People have written books and conducted workshops centered around this idea. It may seem like a trend, but it’s far from trendy. It’s not a fad or temporary fascination; it’s just smart living.
Look Around and Be Grateful
Look around at what you already have and be grateful for it.
I know, it’s a hard pill to swallow, especially when things aren’t how you want them to be, but learning to first accept your life – in all its marvels and mess – is life-changing. Peace starts from within anyway, right?
Again, this doesn’t mean that you won’t want some things to change, but you just have to learn to be grateful for what you do have and accept what life has for you right now. Although, there are just some things that will never change for some of us. Some of us have to deal with tough circumstances that cannot be changed. Some of us will never fit the mainstream definition of having it all, no matter how much we work for it. If you are one of them, still learn to accept, be at peace with it, and live a full life.
Go Easy on Yourself
Whether you are trying to figure out what you want, already moving towards big changes, or deciding to sit pretty with acceptance of how your life is, give yourself a break. Do you know who the world’s harshest critic is? Take a look in the mirror. You are your toughest critic and you probably have zero mercy on yourself. You criticize yourself for not having and doing and being like other people. This doesn’t help. Constant self-criticism erodes confidence, which eventually strips away your drive to live the life you want to live.
Whether you see it at first or not, we’re all flawed.
In the end, our new neighbor turned out to be just as flawed as anyone else living a life of ups-and-downs just like the rest of us. I’m not happy about her flaws (or maybe secretly I am), but I realize that there is no such thing as perfect, have-it-all life so I should not exhaust myself trying to reach it. And even if there is, it’s not the standard I want to compare myself to. I’m setting my own standard, flaws and all.
I think I’ve said enough. I guess that’s what happens when you have so much peace and contentment inside. I really owe it all to Tara Brach meditation. I really do thank the universe for leading me to her work. Otherwise, I might still be that envious woman.
Now, are you convinced at how my meditations work? You can live a life like mine too! Head on to Tara Brach’s website and learn more about meditations and other stuff she offers. I swear you will be glad that you did.